Sacred Intimate: The healing power of pleasure
What is a Sacred Intimate?
Sacred Intimates work with all people who are seeking help in exploring any or all aspects of their sexuality.
Our work is experiential. Rather than talking or counselling therapy, we work primarily with the body, intimacy, eros, emotion and spirit. We use the power of pleasure as a tool for healing and transformation.
The main modalities used are movement, breathing, touch, body awareness, consent and sexual skills. A Sacred Intimate guides you intimately through sensual, sexual and erotic experiences in a safe and hygienic way, actively contributing to your experience and supporting you in your personal development and self-awareness.
Practices may vary. Some focus mainly on the body, some on coaching, some on interaction and mutual exploration, some on awareness or Energy Tantra, Sexual Tao, Shamanism, Hippocratic massage (vaginal / anal mapping)…
Most of us combine various modalities and skills. Some sessions may be similar to surrogate, except when we work with a couple, and even then it is possible to adapt our intervention according to the wish and desire of both partners. All of this varies according to our experience, training, personal inclinations, and physical abilities.
Working as a Sacred Intimate is a vocation. The only thing we share is a fascination with the communion between Eros and Spirit, it is a deep commitment on a human level.
There is no license or certification to be a Sacred Intimate. Most Sacred Intimates bring in their prior training in bodywork such as massage, therapeutic modalities such as body-breath integration, Sexological Bodyworker techniques or various forms of breathwork. Some have experience in traditional sex work. Many also have training as counsellors, therapists and coaches.
The most important training, however, is often our own personal experiences and exploration of all fields related to sexuality. As Sacred Intimate, we are also engaged on our own erotic journey. Without this we would not be able to offer what we do.
The term Sacred Intimate was coined by Joseph Kramer and the School of Body Electric in the USA, where for many years intensive training have been held that are open to those with previous experience. Access to these courses, starting with Sexological Bodywork, is now available in Spain at la Casa Dorada
For better or worse, anyone can call themselves Sacred Intimate. When you choose someone to guide you, accompany you and work with, it should always include a conversation about their approach, their experience and training and above all their ethics…
It can also help you to have an idea of what you would like to discover or understand.
Christian Gouttenoire aka Chris Tantra
Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Sacred Intimate
Certified Tantra Masseur from the Diamond Lotus (Andro – Berlin)
Certified Tantra Masseuse – Breath therapist
A Sacred Intimate can be either male or female. Originally, when the word and idea was introduced, most were men. Today we cover the spectrum. Most Sacred Intimates are perfectly bisexual, versatile and able to work with clients of any gender; some exclusively or primarily with men or women.
Sacred Intimacy has been around in this form for a few decades, but it is very likely that it has been around since the dawn of humanity.
For more on this subject, see Don Shewey’s article on Sacred Intimacy
Why do people seek a Sacred Intimate ?
- For help with specific sexual challenges.
- For healing of body memory.
- To become more emotionally comfortable with their own sexuality.
- For pleasure, joy and happiness.
- For exploring creative sexualities and BDSM.
- For coaching, training and support.
- To explore a new element of their eroticism without having had enough support to try.
- For a nourishing respite from their stressful lives.
- For the opportunity to connect skin-to-skin with a Loving Human Being.
Testimonial of the Sacred Intimacy Victoria – Woman 48 years old
I found La Casa Dorada online when I was holidaying in the area, and was just looking to see if there was somewhere locally where I could have a massage.
When I read through all the information from La Casa Dorada website,it sparked an interest in me and I decided to make an appointment.
From the moment I received a reply from Christian I was made to feel comfortable.
I wanted to experience something new, it had been a very long time since I had been physically intimate with anyone and had almost expected that, that part of my life was over.
I had a Sacred Intimacy session and am delighted I did. I was made to feel safe and comfortable at all times. The session was very empowering and taught me many things about myself.
I released old blocked fears and emotions in a very safe and loving environment.
Christian is an amazingly skilled Therapist and I would highly recommend this to anyone.
Testimonial of the Sacred Intimacy Mercedes – Single Woman – 52 years old
I came to Casa Dorada for a Classic Tantra massage session. Curious, wanting to explore sensations, feelings, getting to know myself better. When I looked on the website before going, I didn’t think about a Sacred Intimate session, it seemed,…. very intimate. It didn’t cross my mind. Starting something that you don’t know how it’s going to go, but I set limits on it.
But, quite quickly , we evolved the session into a celebration of Sacred Intimacy.
(…..) On the one hand, well-being through sensations of pleasure.
For the caresses received, feeling a bit like a goddess.
I have rarely felt that I am receiving more than I am giving, and this is one of the times when I have felt that I am receiving more than I am giving. At the same time, I am aware of everything that is inside me, everything that I would like to get out. And of all that I love or that I would like to receive and that I am not able to ask for, that I am not able to express.
Testimonial of the Sacred Intimacy of Scott – 50 yo man
I am no stranger to tantra and have been practising it for over ten years. I adore the many facets of the most intimate connections that tantra offers. When my partner Jessica and I were in the early stages of planning our trip to Spain, one of the first things I sought out was a tantric temple to visit. After only a few moments online, I found the La Casa Dorada website.
Simone and Christian are excellent communicators and such warm and gracious hosts. Jessica and I eventually decided to explore individual Sacred Intimate sessions after some discussion with Simone.
Testimonial of the Sacred Intimacy 2 sessions with Laurence a 52 yo woman
Saturday 7 May 11am: Guided initiation session to Sacred Intimate with Laurence, a 52 year old Sexological Bodyworker and Tantric masseuse. I receive by guiding. Laurence wrote…
“Expanding my comfort zone, experimenting….
I just came out from a sacred intimacy initiation session. I am the giver. The receiver/ guide is Christian, a Sexological Bodyworker, trained in Sacred Intimate with an incredible background in Mindfulness Sexuality.
I am a Tantric masseuse and a Sexological Bodyworker. I have not had an intimate relationship for over 3 years. I have been offering Sexological Bodywork or Tantric massage sessions for 4 years. I am committed to a strict framework that is clearly expressed and always respected. In my sessions I am used to touch is one-way only.
Testimonial of the Sacred Intimacy session of Sabine – 35 years old
La Casa Dorada was recommended to me by the famous Red Tantric school, Diamond Lotus in Berlin (where Christian and Simone trained).
So I went to see this idyllic place in the middle of nature, one hour south of Barcelona.
After a detailed conversation about my expectations and goals, I decided on a Sacred Intimacy session.
What an adventure of sensuality and self-knowledge!
Christian took me in a very respectful, gentle and caring way on a journey of exploration of my embodied being, through breath, touch, sounds and words – all from the very beginning in interaction so that I could learn to listen to and understand my body and above all to be able to communicate my sensations and dare to express my desires.
The session exceeded my expectations! I felt wonderfully supported and accompanied in an atmosphere of trust, harmony and respect.
I was not familiar with this format before and I highly recommend it to all those who are curious, anxious and eager to know themselves beyond limiting beliefs and to explore new intimate spaces.
Christian generates confidence and professionalism from the first moment! I will surely come back, maybe already for a retreat of initiation to the Sexuality of Full Consciousness of which the Sacred Intimacy is the most accomplished expression.
Thank you for this unique experience that made me grow!
Testimonial of the Sacred Intimacy session of Petra – woman – 59 years old
I have been a professional Tantra masseuse for many years. I am therefore familiar with Tantric massages, I am also familiar with Tantric practices with partners to discover and experience together. So I know well what the word intimacy means. But this meeting with a man, Christian, in the context of a Sacred Intimacy session was totally new for me. First of all, Christian defined the framework and explained what my part would be in the session to come:
- As the receiver, I am in charge, I say where to go and how far to go, I say what I need and want, I decide how and where I want to be touched, it is up to me to define the content of this session. Christian is there to hold the space and activate my energy. My first reaction was “oh no! I have to do something, when I just want to relax…”
- I need to use conscious breathing, movement and sound to connect to the present moment, to listen to what my body has to say, and to express it. Deep conscious breathing sets energy in motion, strengthening feelings to express them in movement and sound.
- Do nothing, force nothing, just let it happen. This sounds easy, but it is not, especially for me who is always action-oriented and goal-oriented in my daily life. I closed my eyes and Christian led me first into the perception of my body. By breathing deeply, inhaling and exhaling through my mouth, I let the breath flow through my body. And then to feel how the energy flows and where it does not. I first felt a tension, a pain in my shoulders, and in my lumbar region. I started to move, letting my breathing and my movements guide me.
“I love this place with its lush garden and cosy gazebo. But mainly, I had come for a massage in order to release energetic and emotional blockages as well as fears. This is why I even booked a massage with a male practitioner, to overcome also this barrier. Christian was excellent. He took time to get to know me, to find out about my wishes and boundaries, was extremely respectful and attentive. I very much appreciate his experience and his ability to intuitive connect to my needs. I recommend him wholeheartedly.”
“This is how a Sacred Intimate session should be. Having experienced various forms of Tantra for over 11 years, I came to the session with Christian with an open mind. The experience blew my mind. he held the space in a safe, skilful and highly intentional way. He created a wonderful space for me to surrender, and to allow some old Trauma to arise. He held it in protection, love and light and it marked a significant shift for me. I would experience this again and highly recommend it to anyone.”
Carles and Nuria
It took us as a couple very little time to make the decision to visit and get to know the Casa Dorada. From the very first contact, the availability, seriousness, friendliness and professionalism of the interlocutors were excellent. When the day of the visit arrived, the facilities and the impressive outdoor space welcomed us, inviting us to the long-awaited total disconnection and to feel 100% the experience.
Christian and Simone accommodated and accompanied us at all times. Their kindness, empathy and professionalism were evident in every detail during the morning we spent with them. Their explanations, and their invitation to live and enjoy every moment, helped us to let go of old taboos and mental frameworks that only hinder us from reaching, or at least feeling closer to, physical, mental, sexual fulfilment.
Our experience as a couple exceeded expectations. Our feeling, more than that of living in parallel universes, was that of living in the same universe, abandoning ourselves to an intense, enriching and precious trance, with the company and guidance of our hosts. We can only recommend them and invite those who are curious to investigate, to discover, to let go and to live.